by KC Davis, LPC
I just finished listening to "How to Keep House While Drowning," and I'm embarrassed to say I don't remember where I got the recommendation! Either way, this is a powerful book. While I'm thankful to not experience some of the more intense challenges described in this concise read, I do experience anxiety and sometimes feel like I'm never going to get out from under our household's list of care tasks (using the term "care tasks" instead of "chores" is one of my major takeaways).
I grew up in a super neat, organized home, and for the ten years I lived alone I held myself to the same standards. Now that I live with three other humans I often find myself overwhelmed by the amount of clutter, unfolded clothes, and general "stuff." Listening to KC's book I found great solace in hearing that perfect completion of care tasks is not a value I need to adhere to. I've found the power to do what I can do when I can do it, and to set reasonable expectations and standards for myself and others. Our friends will not stop being our friends because our home isn't perfectly organized or clean, and the more I experience this the more I know it is true.
For those struggling with major and/or minor mental health challenges, invest three hours and give this book a try. If nothing else, you'll feel like you're not alone.
(My favorite idea from this book is "rituals over routines" - this has been on my mind for years, so keep an eye out for more.)
"Why is it so hard for me to stay on top of housework? What's wrong with me?" - KC Davis, LPC, 2022